Male & Female — Positive & Negative Vibrational Factors
from Ye Shall Know the Truth
Uranda April 26, 1952
I have recognized all through my
ministry that there have been many peculiar and ridiculous ideas developed with
respect to the positive and negative aspects of being as they relate to men and
women. I felt that it would be well for us to meditate upon these things a
little at this time. We recognize that in the pattern of relationship between
the male and the female it was, and is, the divine design that the male should
carry the positive point of polarity and the female the negative point of
polarity. But I have been repeatedly amazed at some of the distortion patterns
which have appeared with respect to concepts about what it meant for the male
to be positive and the female to be negative. In some the idea has developed
that in order to be negative the female had to be acquiescent and subservient
in all things. Such a concept is ridiculous nonsense. Connected with this has
been the idea that carrying the positive point of polarity gave the man leave
to be dictatorial and arbitrarily impose his whims and desires, without any
regard to the patterns in his wife, which again is ridiculous nonsense.
Out of this there has come another
aspect of distortion in concept which needs to be cleared. There have been
various ones who have had the idea that in order to make spiritual progress one
simply had to have a husband or a wife, and that is foolishness; the idea that
a man or a woman would be but half a person unless he or she were married. That
is a ridiculous idea. It is not the truth. Human beings cannot properly be
isolated. We have meaning one to another, and we have meaning as individuals
only as we have meaning to others. Our potentials as individuals, whatever they
are, can have no real meaning or value on earth until they have meaning to
someone else. Our relationships in a spiritual sense, on the mental level, the
realms of mental and spiritual perception, have all kinds of relationships and
meanings, and to say that these do not have any meaning in completing the
individual life except as they have meaning between husband and wife is
ridiculous.
I am not saying there should not
be husbands and wives properly blended, but to say that merely because one does
not have a husband or wife one cannot make true progress is utterly false. The
mere fact of marriage is in itself actually beside the point in relationship to
spiritual progress. Where there is a true harmony between husband and wife, a
true union in spirit, a true harmony in the mental field, so that they are
sharing the things of God, then the husband and wife who function in correct
polarity have an opportunity of sharing in a deeper sense—and I do not mean
just in the sense of physical relationship, but a deeper and more intimate
sense, vibrationally, and that can be and shall be a great blessing.
No individual can properly be
classified as merely half a person because he or she may not be married,
because our meanings one to another are of many levels other than the mere fact
of physical relationship in the intimate phases of marriage. Where that
intimate relationship in marriage is not sanctified by love it is adultery, as
surely as if there were no marriage bond in the technical or legal sense. The
marriage ceremony, as such, cannot sanctify marriage. It is an acknowledgment
of a declaration of love, which is most important to our society and our
function. I am certainly not saying anything against marriage. Let us be very
certain of that. But the marriage ceremony as such is simply an acknowledgment,
a recognition, before God and man, of a declaration on the part of the partners
that they do have love, that love which is of God, which makes a basis of
oneness-with and provides an opportunity of functioning in the patterns of
truth in relationship to each other, the constructive expression of life which
will sanctify that union.
Only the truth can sanctify, but
love provides the reality of oneness-with, the cohesive quality, and if there
is not love, with a consequent function according to the patterns of truth, the
mere legal fact of marriage has no power whatsoever to sanctify that marriage.
Any intelligent human being who has given any thought to the matter has
recognized that a physical attraction as such certainly does not provide any
real foundation for marriage, that marriage must carry a pattern of blending,
of union, in the mental plane with respect to the truths of life, and in the
spiritual plane with respect to the reality of love; for without love and truth
there can be no beauty in marriage, regardless of anything else.
So when we are thinking of union
and the positive and negative interplay of vibrational factors, we are not
thinking of it in the sense of physical sex. If we use the word in the divine
sense, we can recognize that sex has a part to play in every level of being;
that is, there must be the positive and negative factors involved and the
interplay between them. There are the positive and negative aspects of God; and
the positive aspect of the human race is, and must be, in any pattern of truth,
negative to God, responsive to the divine center of being. The positive and
negative aspects made evident out here in the form of men and women provide an
opportunity for the revelation of the things of God in this realm on a complete
basis—not something limited, distorted and ugly, not something sordid in any
sense, but something so divine and beautiful and wonderful that heaven does in
fact appear on earth. What is it that makes the reality of a positive function
on earth?
There is no such thing as a true
positive on earth, regardless of physical characteristics of maleness or the
lack of it, without a centering in God's love in relationship to the patterns
of God's truth. The mere fact that a member of the human race is called a male
does not in any sense make him a positive. He has the potentiality of being a
positive, yes, providing he lets himself be centered in God's love and
controlled by the patterns of God's truth. But let us remember that woman is
more than a body and man is more than a mind. These are properly points where
they are individually dominant. Woman is supposed to be dominant in the realm of
the body aspect of being, and it is through her that the body of both male and
female appear. But woman is more than a body. She has a mind; she has a point
of polarity in the divine plan; she has spiritual capacities. Man is more than
a mind. He likewise has a body, a point of centering in the pattern of reality
in the sense of deity, and he has spiritual capacities. The coordination of
these two in harmony with the laws of being allows for a complete revelation of
the divine processes and functions on earth, not just in the sense of something
physically manifest, because we have recognized that nothing can manifest in
any true sense physically without the spiritual factors back of the physical
action. Even if there is a distortion pattern and something is wrong, a wrong
action physically, there is a distortion of spiritual or mental factors in
producing that wrong physical action.
So there are spiritual factors
back of any physical action, either spiritual factors which are distorted,
misused, or abused in producing a wrong action, or spiritual factors which are
rightly used, or what is called righteousness, in relationship to correct
function under the dominion of truth. If by any chance there is a male of the
species through whom the pattern of truth is not functioning, where the pattern
of truth is not in dominion, and he has a wife through whom the pattern of
truth is working and there is the expression of that truth, what is it that is
going to control? The truth. The
positive manifestation in such a case would appear through the woman. It would
have to, because the truth at any level is positive to that which is below it,
though negative to that which is above it. So we have the pattern of dominion
through truth in woman just as well as in man. But the potentialities in the
male of the species are such that the male can carry a higher point of polarity
in truth than is natural to the female. That is not saying that the female is
lower than the male. It is simply recognizing that woman was created on the
basis of one part of the pattern of divine function and man on another. They
cannot be compared. How can we compare a man and a woman? We can say they are
both human beings, they are aspects of the human race, but you cannot compare
unlike things. All of this idea about the contest between the sexes has a basis
in false ideas, because there is no necessity of any contest or conflict
between the sexes. All such things are wrong. They have a basis in distortion
patterns somewhere, somehow.
We cannot be set free until we
know the truth, and only the truth can make us free. Where the truth manifests
correctly through a woman it is just as positive, it is just as enduring, it is
just as real as if it were made manifest through a man. As it happens it was a
female who wrote this realization that I read to you [earlier] this evening.
That fact does not detract from the positive aspect of the truth expressed. It
does not make it less true than if a man had expressed it, for truth is truth
wherever it appears. We should see, then, that if there is going to be the
proper relationship between the male and the female aspects of the human race
the male aspect must express those phases of the truth and be under the
dominion of those phases of truth which are peculiar to his nature, and the
female must be under the dominion of, and express or reveal, those aspects of
truth which are peculiar to her proper sphere of function. The truth is
respected wherever it appears, whether it appears through male or female, by
all of those who are under the dominion of truth. The mere fact that a man may
have said it, or a woman, is beside the point except as it may be colored by
human concepts and limitations of the male or the female.
There are certain limitations
which tend to appear more readily through the female than through the male, and
there are certain limitations which tend to appear more readily through the
male than through the female. So if the expression with respect to truth is
distorted or colored, then the question as to whether it appeared through a man
or a woman might possibly have some meaning, but the pure expression of the
truth without distortion, without coloring, is something that appears, and is
recognized and accepted within the scope of the truth by those who are subject
to it, without regard to the male or the female channel of its appearance.
A divine aspect of this matter is
that there will be certain delicacies of expression, there will be certain
characteristics natural to the divine pattern in the detail of manifestation,
which appear more readily through the female than through the male. There are
certain things which will appear through the male rather than through the
female if they are to appear at all, because a man cannot function as a woman
nor can a woman function as a man, try as she may. In the world more women have
been guilty of trying to function as men than men have been guilty of trying to
function as women. The tendency to distortion, the tendency to deviation from
the natural pattern, even though it be extremely limited, is more prevalent in
the female than in the male—give a woman free rein on a general basis and a
large majority will attempt to take a positive position and attempt to reject
the negative aspect of being as something unworthy of her, not realizing that
such function is unworthy of her. There is nothing unworthy, menial or below
with respect to the natural pattern of the female.
Eve was created, according to the
allegorical story, out of a rib taken from the side of Adam. This signifies
many things, one of which we have all recognized as being that woman should
stand at man's side. She is not to be trampled upon nor is she to try to be the
crown upon his head. She is to be by his side, to be a partner in the
outworking of life, to be a companion in the fulfilment of life. We might also
recognize that the utilization of the rib in this symbology suggests that woman
is to be strong. Ribs have certain peculiar characteristics. There is a
pliability, a flexibility, but a remarkable strength which protects the vital
organs of the body. The same characteristics carry over into the female, a
pliability which has normally, naturally, a great strength. But as long as the
female measures her strength, her ability as a woman, on the basis of how well
she can control her man, how well she can dominate him, she is using a false
measuring stick; for she is not supposed to dominate. It is her own sense of
insecurity, her own recognition of failure to be a true female, that makes her
feel that she must bolster her femaleness, her divine womanhood, with an
attempt to dominate and control her man. But when a woman begins to recognize
the reality of her divine position, and to glory in it, and to realize that it
contains within it all that is essential to her complete fulfilment, it would
be utterly wrong for the male of the species to assume that he somehow then had
a right to arbitrarily dominate and control and that the female was supposed to
be subservient.
There can be no pattern of
subservience in divine union, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or in a true
pattern of companionship in the physical plane of being. No man who is worth
his salt, who has any right to call himself a man, finds any pleasure
whatsoever in dominating, in the sense of producing a state of subservience in
a female, because if the man is supposedly deriving some satisfaction from
producing a condition of subservience in his wife he is showing himself to be
lacking as a man. No man worth his salt is interested in having a woman in a
subservient state. He could find no satisfaction in her. He might as well have
an animal for a companion in such a state, not a divine creature capable of
sharing true companionship in all phases of his life.
As we recognize these things, we
see that the reality of the positive position is not established by something
that is dictatorial in relationship to personal human whims and fancies. On the
other hand, any man or woman who is to be made free must accept the reality of
truth and come under dominion, under control. From the standpoint of the
revelation of truth where there is the proper responsibility in relationship to
correction and direction, there may be a very positive position without in any
sense having that position take on the nature of being dictatorial. In the
divine sense it may be autocratic, but in the true analysis anything that is
dictatorial is simply an attempt on the basis of human will to bring someone
under subservient subjection to the human will, the personal desire merely to
have someone bend to the human will. Anything that tends in that direction,
whether it appears through male or female, is dictatorial, and it has no proper
place. But to call the positive position in relationship to truth and the
insistence that we should conform to that truth a dictatorial attitude is to
reveal one's ignorance, because the truth is not based upon personal whim or
fancy or personal desire. That which insists upon response to the patterns of
truth and rejects anything that does not conform to the truth, that which bears
to the point of truth and refuses to acknowledge anything that does not conform
to truth, is not properly dictatorial. That is a part of the divine pattern of
control, of divine autocracy, if you want to put it that way, which cannot and
must not be confused with any human attitude that can properly be called
dictatorial.
We recognize that the dominion as
such is in truth, not in man, not in woman. The mere fact of maleness or
femaleness is beside the point. The point of authority, the point of power, the
point of dominion, the point of control, is centered in truth. Human beings
cannot be held to the patterns of truth without love. God's love must be
present if one is to experience that oneness-with which will permit truth an
opportunity to control and to establish the dominion of the divine pattern of
being. Without God's love there is nothing to hold the human being, male or
female, to the pattern of truth. Therefore the human being in such a case
becomes subject to a distortion pattern, and the distortion pattern is in
control whether the human being realizes it or not. So the actuality of dominion
is in truth.
The reality of God's love is
essential to the working of that dominion, but it is not love that makes the reality
of authority. It is love that makes possible the working of the authority, but
the authority, the dominion, the control is vested in truth and not in love.
But the working, the functioning, of truth in relationship to dominion is made
possible only by love. Truth cannot make one free while one does not have love,
in the sense of the fulfilment of the first great commandment, to love God.
Until we center in love and recognize the truth in relationship to love, and
accept it, we cannot experience the transition into the divine state of freedom
which is a state that is under the dominion of truth.
Therefore, while certain
expressions of truth have their primary manifestation through the female, and
certain aspects of truth have their primary manifestation through the male, it
is not a question of maleness or femaleness. It is a question of "Is it
the truth?" Only the truth can have true dominion in a constructive sense.
Any dominion which is exerted or established without regard to truth destroys.
It always has and always will. The dominion that is established by truth
builds; it is creative. But the functioning of truth in establishing that
dominion, in carrying out the principles of the patterns of truth, is possible
only because of love. We have pointed out many times that love may be
classified as a sense of oneness-with, that is, union. We cannot say we
actually love God until, or unless, we begin to have oneness with God. Oneness
with God, which is love and which is something that is a reality if we love
God, makes us in reality a part of God. We cannot separate ourselves from God
in relationship to our own thoughts and attitudes, our functions, if we are to
know this truth, union with this truth; for we must have union with the
fundamental truth of the first of the two great commandments, and know that
truth, before we can know the reality of oneness with God's love. Accepting
that oneness, experiencing it, sharing it, we cannot continue to act and
function as if we were separate from God, merely creatures down in this world
looking to some God far off from us.
There is no such thing as love
without union on some level of being. There cannot be love without a sense of
oneness-with. Disordered human minds are constantly inclined to translate any
sense of oneness-with that may manifest between a male and a female into some
excuse for some kind of physical relationship, which is of course ridiculous.
It is foolish, it is wrong, it is one of the things our servers must come to
realize with absolute conviction so that the truth makes them free on this
point. Otherwise the sense of oneness-with that begins to develop in the
reality of God's love will be mistranslated by the human mind into something
which would seem to give reason or excuse for wrong relationships, male and
female.
There cannot be any true service
without love, and love is oneness-with. Love is union. Only to the degree that
you have union with God in the reality of love can you be one with God. Only to
the degree that that oneness with God allows the expression of God's love to
express through you into the world can you be a part of God and share in God's
creative processes. By the fact that God's love is flowing through you and
establishes a pattern by which union appears vibrationally, spiritually,
emotionally (because it is through the feeling realm that we perceive these
things), intellectually and in some respects a certain relationship in a
vibratory interchange physically (for otherwise you could not give an
attunement), we see that the whole pattern of service is bound up in love. God's
truth expressed through Jesus Christ, "By this shall all men know that ye
are my disciples, if ye have love one to another," is vitally important to
us. But if the human mind starts translating the reality of that love into an
excuse for some wrong pattern of function physically, we are going to have
trouble. That is what brought the fall in the first place.
That is not to say that the
physical part of us is not to share the experiences of life. It is. But that
which may be classified as the desires of the body must never be allowed to
control. That is not to say that we are not to function in relationship to
those desires, or that they are never to be allowed to be given opportunity of
expression. Under the divine pattern there is a right place, a right way, but
when that function appears its manifestation is not because the body or its
desires are in control, because if the body and its desires are in control the
function is wrong, without a single, solitary exception. But that which is
natural to the desires of the body in the true sense, without disorder, is
natural also to the spiritual and, in its proper place and time and way, may
have its proper expression.
Some have taken the attitude that
if there is to be the spiritual life there simply must not be any function in
sex whatsoever, meaning physical sex or the relationship between men and women.
Some teachings attempt to stop the relationships between men and women in the
physical sense. That is a ridiculous thing, just as foolish as a lot of other
concepts. Control from the standpoint of the spirit of reality is made manifest
when the desires of the body are not permitted to dominate but when the
spiritual patterns of being, working out according to the pattern of truth
through the body, allow the body to participate in the creative processes, so
that the natural longings contained within the body are satisfied at the proper
time in the proper way. Then they are the end result of a truly spiritual
function. If the expression is from the physical standpoint, hoping to get to
the spiritual, it will never work; but if there is a true pattern spiritually,
so that the truth is in control, there are those proper times and places
provided in the outworking of the social scheme and the affairs of men.
The complete expression of truth
on earth requires both men and women. The complete expression of love on earth
in relationship to God's design for man and all His creation requires both men
and women. It cannot be completely manifest through man, nor can it be
completely manifest through women. We need to get away from the personalized
concepts which cause human beings to say, "I want to be a complete being,
so I must get married." Ridiculous concept, a childish attitude, immature.
Marriage has its proper part and place, but it is not marriage in the legal,
outer sense that is going to provide the fulfilment. So let us recognize that
it is not a matter of your trying to get your fulfilment as a person, or even
as a divine man or woman, that is going to permit you to know fulfilment. Until
your primary concern is lifted out of yourself as a human being and out of
concern for what you are going to be as a divine being to a point where your primary
concern is for the complete expression for the truth on earth according to
God's design, you cannot know your whole fulfilment.
If I were concerned about trying
to find some personal fulfilment for myself, do you think we would be here? No.
We would long ago have been off on some tangent. No, my
fulfilment as an individual, as a human being, as an Inner Being, or any other
kind of a being, is beside the point. I am not concerned about it. If I were, I
would not be here talking to you. I think that should be very obvious, because
if I had chosen to prostitute my abilities I would not have limited myself to
teaching a handful of people, because it would not be satisfying my ego. All
you have to do is take a sensible look at things. I would not have been here to
start with, in any such case. I am not concerned about my fulfilment as an
individual.
I am concerned about your
fulfilment, about the fulfilment of truth through all human beings, bar none.
Until you can let go of these personal, graspy things, the greed of the human
mind and heart, its concern about what it is going to be as a man or woman,
divine man or woman, or something else, and stop trying to get fulfilment for
yourselves, stop trying to get to heaven, or position in heaven, or dominion,
power, or anything else, you will not know true fulfilment. As long as you are
trying to get something for yourself you are wrong, even if it is the things of
God you seek. Until your primary concern is the fulfilment of truth for all
humanity, the centering in God's love, the reality of truth which we come to
know in union, which makes men free (not just one person or a few but all) so
that the wholeness of truth may be revealed in patterns of being which allow
the fulness of God's love to be revealed on earth—until that is our concern
without regard to personal desire, personal cost, personal effort, what we have
done or have not done, until that is the controlling passion of our lives, we
are not worthy to be counted citizens of the kingdom or disciples of our Lord
and King.
The controlling passions of our lives must be that the truth shall have dominion and that God's love shall be made manifest through the body of truth in men and women around us and in all the world. That is what characterized the life of our Lord on earth, and unless that characterizes our lives we are not following Him nor can we be truly called His disciples. Peace be unto you.
