Is  It  Not  The  Greatest  Thrill  To  Be  Trustworthy?

from  Union in the Great One

Alan Hammond   July 5, 1992 

We recognize that the House of Being is inhabited by male and female, the two vast aspects of the one spirit, and in their interaction all of creation has appeared and continues to do so. What a marvelous cosmic love affair this is between the Lord and Lady of the House of Being! Each of us is a focus of one of these two aspects of deity. In Genesis it said that God created man in his own image, male and female created he them, and each of us is an aspect of divine being, male or female, part of this vast cosmic relationship brought to focus in our lives exactly where we are. 

Freud, that great psychoanalyst, believed that all destructive experience and expression through men and women was caused by sexual dysfunction. According to Freud, we should look at the relationship between men and women as a major cause for the distorted energy moving into the world, causing the hell thus made manifest. But while sexual dysfunction may be the cause of all human misery, it is both men’s and women’s dysfunctional relationship with God that is the core of the problem. It’s a very simple idea, one we’ve heard many times, but it is one that experience tells us needs to be reiterated in our own consciousness, because it is the starting point for healing. 

When one starts to talk about the relationship between men and women, immediately a debate arises about whether men are trying to dominate women, and about the attendant abuse—but women abuse men too, though they undoubtedly use different forms to try to control. We know that this battle, this ugly experience, is not the truth. When looking at sexual matters, we often endeavor to categorize what constitutes “true male behavior” and “true female behavior.” As a result, we have men trying to be ridiculously macho or unspeakably gentle, depending on what the fashion is, and women trying to be either totally yielded or macho as well. And thus there is a morass of contest and misery. 

If we all, men and women, love God, love the true spirit of being, that becomes known as our one mutual character. Men and women have the same fundamental character, the truth of love. It is glorious, beautiful, strong and tender. That is where we find our union. We are one in that spirit, in that character. And so instead of trying to figure out whether we should be more gentle or more assertive, we might consider what is true to the tone of great character, of beautiful creative spirit in the moment. Then we express whatever is called for— never mind whether the prevailing view sees it as masculine or feminine. It’s the tone, the character, the creative spirit in action. 

We have debates about forms of relationship: How should a man interact with a woman, or a woman with a man? Some of us worry a lot about that. Every individual is unique, so when two individuals interact we can’t compare how they should relate. This is a difficult mindset to break through, because everybody has opinions about how a particular relationship ought to be in its dynamic and experience. But it is absolutely unique, and it is an event of the moment. It depends on the individuals involved, and it depends on the circumstance. So why should we be burdened with these straitjackets of concept? We must be true to divine character, to creative spirit in the moment, and do what we need to do. And whether it feels comfortable or uncomfortable, if the act is genuine, we will find it is creative too. 

The law of the Great One is absolute. Out of true expression, true character, male or female, emerges true experience. Who knows what the form of our lives will be as we love and express true character, but the quality of experience will expand and become increasingly beautiful. True character is the guiding star in the moment, and then the law works absolutely. So we would wish to let go of untrue character. 

Our relationships together, male and female, aren’t separate from every other aspect of our living. It is impossible to cultivate fulfilling male-female relationships if we’re not also cultivating our relationship with everything else to which we relate as individuals. The quality of our interaction with anything will determine the quality of our experience with people, and this is secret work, isn’t it? Nobody sees how disrespectful or careless we are with a pair of shoes, for example, but the quality of our care either generates or dissipates substance, pneumaplasm. And that will either enhance or diminish our ability to be present with people. 

This is where it gets exciting, because the way we handle our every thought and feeling is also sexuality. Am I the truth of love relative to the thoughts I have about people and situations? Do I let destructive, vicious thoughts reside, or even give them a bit of juice? That will diminish everything around us. We experience the full range of feeling, but as the truth of love, we may deliberately express what is creative in the moment. That doesn’t inhibit what should be expressed or how it should be expressed; we are simply conscious of the beauty and nobility of who we are. It’s not always easy, but it is interesting and exciting. 

This sexual relationship with the Great One is not an airy-fairy thing. It comes to conscious intercourse in the kind of situations I was describing just now, concerning the patterns of thought and feeling that move through us. Questions come to us in those moments of sexual relationship with the divine: “Can you be trusted? Can I trust you to express our union in this challenging situation?” Can God trust me to be honest, to not blame someone, to not try to tear someone down? In that moment I prove if I’m trustworthy. Is it not the greatest thrill to be trustworthy, to be reliable in various challenging situations? That is when we know our greater Selves, because we are in union with something vaster than ourselves. We express ourselves in that union. 

The blocks to the expression of our own greatness relate to dishonesties within ourselves, which we may not even recognize for years. But we have to begin to let the creative spirit come to focus relative to these blocks so they can be dissolved. Inadequate creativity in our worlds may be maintained by attitudes that don’t seem related at all to where the misery is. We may assume that misery, relative to a particular person, is being maintained when we think about the person directly, but there may be dishonesties, unclarities, in other areas of living, and the mind can’t see the correlation. This possibility emphasizes the importance of every moment of living, whether it looks significant or not. They actually are all interconnected; we just don’t know how, most of the time. Significant victories are won when, instead of giving expression to base human nature, we carefully bring forth new qualities of expression. That has effect on our whole creative field. It is exciting to change mediocre expression in anything! It’s never a waste. The law of the Great One is absolute. 

One of the banes of human relationship is lack of trust between the sexes: women mistrust men, and men mistrust women. Without mutual trust there can be no real experience of profound love and freedom with each other. How can we trust someone who is untrustworthy? We can’t, and we know it. We may try as best we can, but we always hold something back, largely unconsciously. Love songs proclaim the great longing to find and interact with the Beloved in life, but then the second part of the songs so often seem to be about how the object of love turned out to be untrustworthy and the relationship collapsed. Only as we begin to be true to our union with the Lord and the Lady can we begin to exemplify those characteristics that are absolutely trustworthy. A man who does so represents the Lord in human form on earth; he is actually an aspect of the Lord. A woman who does so is actually an aspect of the Lady in form. The Lord and Lady of the House alone are trustworthy. 

There is no possibility of deeper fulfillment in relationship with the opposite sex until there is adequate union in the one character, spirit, the true nature of our being. We wish to bring something of heaven into the earth—and isn’t heaven brought by the presence of the Beloved in form with one? It is. Then there are new levels of creativity to be shared through human form on earth. That is our goal; that is why we incarnated, to return the experience of humanity to this. We were all born into this confused, distorted world of relationship, and whether we were tainted because we were born into distortion directly, or whether we managed to stumble into it, we each have a personal predicament. Whatever our situation is, we may see it as a part of the work of the Lord and Lady of Being, which includes the recreation of the true relationship between male and female God through human form on earth. Each of us is here to do this, and each has a unique part to play. Nobody has a totally easy part. We are all in this together, male and female. We have come to restore the experience of heaven: the Beloveds together again, creating together, enlarging and enhancing the House of Being. 

It is important to have a true paradigm in this work. The paradigm is that every one of us is an aspect of divine being, and we are emerging through the mottled medium of our human capacities so that when we interact with each other we never condemn the individual. We know that the individual is an aspect of divine being, an aspect of the Beloved behind a lattice, somewhat obscured. We know the Beloved is there, and we relate accordingly to him or her. We don’t support the distortions and the weaknesses in evidence. To do so is to hold the person in hell. Only as he or she comes free of those distortions and weaknesses can freedom and the truth of love be known, so it’s a delicate, creative interplay. 

Life is vast, all around us! This is one specific area in which the Lord and Lady have asked us to achieve—not relative primarily to external form, but to the quality of spirit as we continue to emerge in the true revelation of ourselves.

© Emissaries of Divine Light